It's not about me

When people say something that could easily offend me I choose to think "its not about me it's about them" they are the ones choosing to think, act and say what they want, I have no control over that, but i do have control over how I will respond and what I will think.

So, my little 3 year old, who sometimes will act out without understanding what's going on in his mind and is still learning to control his actions and emotions, can get on my nerves, he can bring up emotions I had no idea I felt, but it's not him it's me, if I give in to frustration all it does for him is make the emotions and actions bigger, not necessarily what I want to have happen, but when I choose to be in control of my response and act calmly I can still feel peace and be centered even if he's throwing his tantrum. The difference is that he's young and literally doesn't know any better. He does catch on super quick though, so I have to be careful in the way I respond because he in turn learns to respond the same way, he will mimic what he sees, he only learns what he is shown.

This is an amazing lesson to me, I need to be the emotional grown up as well as the actual parent, this is where emotional freedom tapping helps me, as well as taking time to count and breath and reevaluate my thoughts and emotions in the moment so I don't react in a negative way that I may regret.

Be intentional in your reactions to others and to yourself, take time to understand your thoughts and feelings so you don't miss any of those moments that are here to teach you and help you live true to your higher self.

Have a blessed Day!