The perfection illusion

Have you ever been told that you always look so put together or when people come to your house that it’s so nice and and clean all the time, but inside your cringing because you know what’s behind the closed doors, you know what’s inside each room, in the closet, drawers, cupboards whatever it is and it’s all a wreck, it’s a mess, even within yourself you know what’s going on inside of you which is also a mess and it’s so hard because you don’t always express what’s going on, it looks like you’re all put together because you’re ready for the day, you have all your kids ready or you’ve done all these things in the morning and you’ve gotten yourself to a certain point in the day and you are still going, but nobody really knows what’s going on inside, it’s so scary to be vulnerable, you like to appear to be ok or appear to have a great system in your home, but the reality is that the beauty or the perceived “perfection” on the outside is only a coverup, I get it, I’ve been there and it’s a lot of work always having to plan ahead or think ahead and be prepared, you have to know when people are coming over so your house is clean and always have your scheduled appointments so you look ready for the day no matter what, just look the part and no one will know the truth, you have it all together because you don’t want judgment on you or your family or your home or on anything in your life because heaven forbid things aren’t “perfect“. This is all The old Beliefs from sometime either in your childhood or even as an adult when you started believing that things had to be this way, maybe somebody said something and you decided you wanted it to be this way, it’s not anyone’s fault and it’s not that anyone intentionally made you think or feel this way, just somewhere down the line you started believing that if everything looks put together on the outside no one would ask questions about what’s going on on the inside and hiding those things and keeping them inside or bottling them up is not benefiting you or anyone around you, once you realize that you will be free, free from any perceptions that others have of you, free from the stress that comes when you’re trying to always do everything all the time a certain way, to have it perfect, have it better and it’s very exhausting and it wears on you it wears on your body it wears on your mind and your spirit and it brings you down to a place where you don’t feel like you can ever be good enough or do enough and it takes over every aspect of your life, but I am hear to tell you there is hope to change this to rewire your brain, your thoughts, your intentions and to do something so that you feel better no matter what is behind those closed doors, that whatever is going on inside doesn’t have to be covered up anymore, I have learned some great methods and techniques that have helped me overcome my addiction to perfection. That’s what I’m going to call it because I feel like that’s what it is I was addicted to things looking perfect, being perfect, always using the word perfect and I found out that there’s a good beautiful gift of perfection and then there is distractive one and I was more on the destructive end of perfection and that is not the way that I wanted to be or want to be anymore and as I have grown into myself and this understanding it is so freeing. I want to help you if you feel like you are one who struggles in this area ,I am here, drop me a line, get in touch let’s see if I am a good fit to help you. #fromhairtosoul #lifebyemily #perfectionillusion #energyhealing #lifecoaching #changeyourmindchangeyourlife