Find your why

You know what is so great? It’s that I get to choose what I want to feel and why. I may not know the how, like how am I going to finally get to the point of feeling the way I want to feel? or how will it work out..? So if i understand the why then I will just do whatever it takes to get the result I want. I am learning to focus on why I do what I do and why it’s important to me and why the result will benefit me, because then I will just keep doing all I can until I get what I want. I have been wanting to feel at peace in my life, I have been struggling with the “how can I just feel peace” and “what am I doing wrong”??? So when I started to turn it around and work on why do I want to feel peace and why would that make a difference then I started to figure out what I could change or what would make it better. When I think about why certain things happen in life and how can I change it I sometimes get lost in my thoughts, the thoughts that lead me to want to control everything even when it’s not in my power to control it. Just redirecting my thoughts to what is in my control helps me a lot. Our situations may change and not always be what we want them to be, we may feel like nothing is going the way it should or it’s just not right. When those thoughts come to I play I start from the beginning and listen to my thoughts around that situation, then I want to understand how it makes me feel, what do I choose to do because of how I feel and finally what is the result I am getting? If the result isn’t what you want then you know it has to go back to the thought and feeling process. Go back to the beginning and decide how you actually want things to look, and why, decide what you want to do about it and then take the steps to do it. Those are the only things within our control, that’s when the peace comes in for me. I let go of how and just do what I can because I know why I want it. This is sometimes a very difficult process, especially lately, I am learning to be ok with my situation and want to embrace it for what it is, but it’s not always that easy or natural. It’s hard work to feel peace sometimes, it takes more effort on my part then I even realized before, letting go of that natural part of me that wants to be in control is super hard. A little at a time is all it takes, I take it one day at a time, sometimes I just take it one breathe at a time, I slowly breath in and just exhale, I release those thoughts and desires of control and let it be. These words have come to me lately, “oh well”, oh well if.... oh well. That has brought a lot of peace just saying “oh well.” It allows me to let go of all the fear and anxiety around thoughts I have about situations as they change and how not in control I am of them. I am allowing myself to just let it all go, thankfully in my life there is one who helps me let it all go and he’s also the one who gets to figure out the “how” to my situation, I love the peace that he offers. Jesus Christ is my peace and my how. Whenever I continue to question how I’m going to do it, I just turn and give it to him. What a blessing it has been to recognize and humble myself a little bit more, I am not meant to do it all by myself and neither are you. I’m here to support and help however I can, but if we don’t know how then maybe we can figure out the why and go from there. #fromhairtosoulcoaching #lifebyemily #becauseofhim #letitgo #peace #ctfar #lifecoaching #findyourwhy #results